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Ok, some of you know that I have left my husband, some of you don't and I'm sure some of you don't care but I'm going to tell you a little bit about it anyway. Should any of you not be interested then please press the back button now ? I will not be offended.

It took me approximately 2 years to come to the conclusion that he wasn't the man for me and that I actually didn't love him anymore. This wasn't an easy decision to make, there were a lot of things to consider, some more important than others.

The biggest shocker was that it took me so long to figure out that I didn't actually appreciate being controlled. I've always thought myself to be a strong character but he made me feel weak. I've also found out that I must be a damn good actress as everyone in direct contact with me thought we were the happiest couple on earth. This was me trying to convince myself that everything was ok and that I was in love. Well, that cost me 2 years of my life but no one can say I didn't try.

I'm still in contact with him with regards to trying to sort "stuff" out amicably. I don't like seeing him though and last Friday was a tough one. We finally got round to sorting out all the Cd's and DVD's and trust me, it's not easy splitting up a Floyd collection! He also chose AMLoR knowing that I love that album and he didn't much care for it.

So, here I am, living back with Mar & Par, spending most of my time in my bedroom just like the good old days! I was wondering if anyone else has been through anything similar and would be willing to share their experiences?

Oh and I'm just wondering... is it normal to have sex just once a year after you're married?  No I didn't think so.

The sex thing should have been a dead give away ;D
I also, after meeting you both, was surprised to learn you were so close to splitting up. You've made the split now so try and sort it all out as soon as possible and put it behind you. You say you are normally a strong person so it's important you do not let this experience spoil your chance of happiness by doubting yourself. Keep your sense of humour and allow good things back into your life and be sure that things will get better. Some lucky person out there doesn't know it yet but he will soon meet a beautiful young lady who will make him very happy.

Once a year? That much?? Cool!

;D

I suggest we begin the search for this mysterious person.

Mere mortals are not able to conduct such searches.

Hi Lorna,
It must have been really tough for you to be so honest and post something so frank and personal.
Reading your post, I can't help but think you've made the right decision.

I have not been through a separation (married 5 years), but my wife was previously married, so it doesn't mean life ends and that you will be stuck at your parents for the rest of your life.

The toughest time we have been through was 3 years ago, our 2nd child died suddenly aged just 3 weeks old. Our lives just caved in and I have definitely changed from the person I was before, there is a missing spark.  Fortunatey we had our eldest daughter, aged 2 at the time to focus on.
I know this is unrelated to what you have been through, but I just wanted to highlight the fact that life does go on, although some wounds never completely heal, things do get better, and like my wife found out - there is probably a Floyd-head toyboy out there waiting. ......In the meantime you have some good friends here who will support you. 

All the best 

once a year is probably par for the course if you are Sting