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i have only been married for 6 months and things are not all going to plan, i'm unhappy, and the littlest things are gettiing me down............is this normal?? perhaps this is not the web-site to ask this question but wot do i do??
let me say that we argue constantly, her family hate me.....as i do them....and i am constantly asking myself if i need this or not, wot do i do, i love her but dont know how long i can last...giving the constant presure of it all................ADVISE PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!
SORRY IF THIS IS DEPRESSING!!

No need to apologise for the way you are feeling Jonny, that's what mates are here for.
I don't feel I can give you much advice because it is something you have to work out for yourself IMO. But certainly use us as a sounding board for your thoughts and frustrations.

The only thing I can do is to remind you that you didn't marry K's family, you married her, leave them out of it as much as possible and you may have some foundations for working stuff out.

Not much help I know but what do I know? You are two lovely people and six months is not that long really, sit and talk to each other, if your not shouting you might be heard and you may hear her too!

Over to the other more life experienced forces of our forum........... 

Hi Jonny.

Here's my bit.

Mommapink has a great point there.

If you two can't talk things through....maybe you could agree that some councelling would help. It did for Maureen and I because at the 15 year mark for us....I really belived it was over. I'm here to say that later this year we will have been married for 31 years and we are very happy. I wish in a way we had got some help sooner, and we could have worked things out earlier in our relationship and been better for it. I actually started this process with councelling on my own first. Later came the couples stuff. Each to their own.

Consider this idea, and chat about it with your wife. Cheers
Bob

Oh Jonny if  ever a man deserved a bit of happiness ?
  As Debby says you haven't married your wife's family. You have started a new life with her. Pressumably she wanted to change her life thats why she agreed to marry you?
              If the situation is as grim as you suggest and you are finding more and more that you are taking second place to an overbearing family......time to be an adult and a realist ?
          Don't prolong the agony,whats the point of hurting yourself indefinitely ? Agree to part,in the most adult way possible (that way you at least maintain your dignity)
            A successful marriage is based on mutual trust and an overriding need to be at one with your partner. If you have that basic spark then all hardship can be summounted one way or another. If not, well look at your situation now !
              Ive had the good fortune to have been with Mrs bigdog for 34 years. We've dealt with the crap side of life TOGETHER and after all these years every single day I look forward to seeing her walk through the door in the evening.
            If you've lost that after six months, have you the strength to recover?
    This isn't the place for this.....I'm considering at this point pressing the delete button.
                                                      But you did ask ??

I couldn't add anything to the wisdom that's already been posted in this topic, but you have my sincere best wishes. It was a brave thing to post such a sensitive issue, and it's great to see the way friends on here respond.

Good luck with your future, Jonny.

I think generally western society portrays unrealistic views about marriage, if anything marriage highlights problems in a relationship rather than solving them. If you really want to sort this out I would also strongly recommend couselling (RELATE). Hope that is of some help x